*I just love this gif, lol*
We aren’t nice. Notice I included myself in this because I think that at one point or another, on a regular basis, we as human beings aren’t nice to each other. Why do I think this is? Simple, we lack a few basic things that we need to deal with people every day. My recipe for niceness is as follows:
A little respect for people, kindness, a bit of empathy, the self-awareness to know when you’re being rude and/or inconsiderate, and the maturity to apologize when you’ve wronged someone and to carry out all the qualities above even when you don’t necessarily want to.
I don’t know when it happened but somewhere along the way the basic respect you would show to anyone, regardless of feelings, disappeared from society or at the very least, it’s in hiding. We aren’t kind, we aren’t compassionate, we don’t apologize or acknowledge wrong doing (we’re too busy being defensive), we have no respect for the people around us because we don’t care about people around us. When it comes to how we’re perceived the only thing we care about is if we look cool, how many Facebook likes we have, who follows us on Twitter, and how many “friends” we can tag in a picture on Instagram. As a society we’ve let our character become defined by utterly superficial and trivial things and not by what really matters, how you treat others. We’ve turned into self-obsessed a**holes and no one seems to mind.
We’ve got to start treating people better. I don’t mean how you treat people you know or people you like I mean people you don’t know, people you dislike, people who are completely and totally rude to you or who have no impact on your life whatsoever, it’s how you treat those people that shape the kind of person you are. We’ve turned into a society that is only focused on what we want. We no longer treat others the way we want to be treated. We simply do what we want, when we want, because that’s what everyone else does. Who cares if you let the door slam in someone’s face instead of holding it open for them, who cares if you coming in at 3 in the morning in the middle of the week is going to wake up your roommate, who cares if cutting someone off in traffic causes them to almost have a wreck, who cares if you said something that really hurt another person’s feelings because you got so many retweets on Facebook that one person doesn’t matter, who cares if you were rude to the waiter, who cares if you were rude to the homeless guy, who cares, who cares, WHO CARES!?
No one! That’s just it! No one cares. We reward people for bad behavior and a f*ck it attitude. We look at people who are genuinely nice as something to be annoyed by or as something to be suspicious of and I’m sick of it. I’m sick of it because we’re better than this and I know we’re better than this because I refuse to believe anything else. We are human beings, we can be kind, we can be compassionate, we can be thoughtful, we can have a bit of respect and care for the wants/needs of others and we don’t even have to go out of our way to do so. All you need is a little bit of respect, some kindness, a bit of empathy, a big helping of self-awareness, and the maturity to say you’re sorry if you screw up.
We are all so much better than the way we’ve been behaving and it’s time we started acting like it.